There are children all over the world who grow up in a household with one parent. We struggle and survive. Life is tough. Statistics show that children who grow up without a father figure in their life actually have a harder time in life. When my mom discovered she was pregnant my father decided that he didn’t want to be apart of our lives. He walked away. I hope that decision haunts him every day of his life.
Growing up in a household raised by only my mother was difficult. She did go on to marry a man who was an alcoholic and an abuser although she had no idea at the time she married him. They had 2 sons and 2 daughters together. He was a horrible man and I’m grateful that my mother saw that early enough to take us and run. We ran for well over 10 yrs moving from neighborhood to neighborhood. Keeping us safe was her concern. She worked 3 jobs and managed to keep food on the table, clothes on our backs, and spend quality time with us as much as she could.
Growing up I was jealous of my friends who had a dad in their life. They would go on family trips, get hugs and kisses and spend time doing fun things with their dads and all I could do was day dream and wonder if my father ever thought of me. I never attended a father daughter dance but the only regret I have growing up without a Father was that I would never knew what it would be like to be “daddy’s little girl”.
My mother did the best job she could raising four children. She worked her hardest. She kept a roof over our heads. She kept a clean home. She did the job of a mother and a father. There was no “wait til your father comes home” to deliver punishment. She was judge, jury, teacher, provider, guide, role model, protector and made all the decisions on raising us kids on her own.
Raising children on your own isn’t easy. I know. I was a single parent for well over 10 years. They say little girls grow up to marry a man like their father. I grew up and married a man like my grandpa. He was the only man I knew that even came close to a Father figure and sadly the Lord took him too early. He was funny, hard working and treated me like a princess , just like my husband.
For children who grow up in homes without fathers there are some pretty upsetting statistics:
Check out these facts I found on Children Our Ultimate Investment. (it’s posted in other places too but I can’t figure out where their getting the information.
Statistics are frightening aren’t they?
For all the children out there who grew up being raised by Mom- Remember your Mom’s on Fathers Day. Let them know how much you appreciate all their hard work and dedication to giving you the best life they can provide and doing the work of 2 parents.
Happy Fathers Day Mom.
Thank you for all the sacrifices you made raising us kids. I know it wasn’t easy but I want you to know that I appreciate all you did for us and admire you for sticking with it even when things were really tough. I’m so proud of you.