There are children all over the world who grow up in a household with one parent. We struggle and survive. Life is tough. Statistics show that children who grow up without a father figure in their life actually have a harder time in life. When my mom discovered she was pregnant my father decided that he didn’t want to be apart of our lives. He walked away. I hope that decision haunts him every day of his life.
Growing up in a household raised by only my mother was difficult. She did go on to marry a man who was an alcoholic and an abuser although she had no idea at the time she married him. They had 2 sons and 2 daughters together. He was a horrible man and I’m grateful that my mother saw that early enough to take us and run. We ran for well over 10 yrs moving from neighborhood to neighborhood. Keeping us safe was her concern. She worked 3 jobs and managed to keep food on the table, clothes on our backs, and spend quality time with us as much as she could.
Growing up I was jealous of my friends who had a dad in their life. They would go on family trips, get hugs and kisses and spend time doing fun things with their dads and all I could do was day dream and wonder if my father ever thought of me. I never attended a father daughter dance but the only regret I have growing up without a Father was that I would never knew what it would be like to be “daddy’s little girl”.
My mother did the best job she could raising four children. She worked her hardest. She kept a roof over our heads. She kept a clean home. She did the job of a mother and a father. There was no “wait til your father comes home” to deliver punishment. She was judge, jury, teacher, provider, guide, role model, protector and made all the decisions on raising us kids on her own.
Raising children on your own isn’t easy. I know. I was a single parent for well over 10 years. They say little girls grow up to marry a man like their father. I grew up and married a man like my grandpa. He was the only man I knew that even came close to a Father figure and sadly the Lord took him too early. He was funny, hard working and treated me like a princess , just like my husband.
For children who grow up in homes without fathers there are some pretty upsetting statistics:
Check out these facts I found on Children Our Ultimate Investment. (it’s posted in other places too but I can’t figure out where their getting the information.
Statistics are frightening aren’t they?
For all the children out there who grew up being raised by Mom- Remember your Mom’s on Fathers Day. Let them know how much you appreciate all their hard work and dedication to giving you the best life they can provide and doing the work of 2 parents.
Happy Fathers Day Mom.
Thank you for all the sacrifices you made raising us kids. I know it wasn’t easy but I want you to know that I appreciate all you did for us and admire you for sticking with it even when things were really tough. I’m so proud of you.
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Thank you for sharing about yourself, Happy Father’s Day to your Mom!
What a sincere post Tricia. Hugs to you for opening up to all of us and hooray for you having a wonderful mom!
Happy Father’s Day to your mom!
you know ,,I raised my kids alone,their Dad was there but didnt do anything for them,,I did it all,,I finally left after 30yrs of hell,,,but I never regret the things I did for my kids,,
Yes a big happy father’s day to all those moms who raised their kids alone. My mom did for a long time.
I can’t really say that I have an earthly father to celebrate with but I was reminded today at church that I do have a Heavenly Father that deserves some gratitude
WELL I ALMOST “UNLIKED” You because i only “liked” your page because it told me to in a contest. NOW i have changed my mind and will like you now for YOU. i think these thoughts of what you said about your MoMDad as I have said the very same about mine! although mine was never a real abusive person, albiet that might have meant he couldn’t hold a BEER bottle if he was hitting my mom, or us….but my mom raised 2 “litters” one of 4 boys (all in diapers at the time their sperm donor left, the youngest was 6 weeks old, the eldest of them just turned 4..) then had a 2nd litter with my “father” about 16 years later, and this time she raised the 3 of us. She died almost one year after she finally retired. we miss her ALWAYS, and days where i could have celebrated her are the WORST for me, even tho she’s been gone since ’95 now. It’s been a long 17 years.
Wow the statistics are pretty eye opening seeing as I grew up in a house with just me and my mom.What a great post, Happy fathers day to your mom!!!
Hugs to you both, great post.
I love that you did that. She really was your mom AND your dad. Kudos to her.
Great post. I’m glad we beat the statistics. We had super moms. LOL!
What a touching post. I’m so glad that you beat the statistics and also found a wonderful partner and father for your children.
Your mom sounds like one amazing mother. What a beautiful post.
There were times growing up when my mom had to be both mother and father. My father was in the army, and away a lot.
I love that you dedicated this post to your mom. Those stats are so so scary.
I am so sorry that you had to grow up without a dad and unfortunately it is something that a lot of kids today are facing too. Happy Father’s Day to your great mom!
Those types of statistics always make me cringe, since my oldest son was raised without a father until he was 10. Thankfully he beat the odds and has grown into a great adult. I’m glad you did too.
This is a very sweet post even though the stats are frightening.
Those stats are scary! I love that you married a man like your Grandfather. Your mom must be really proud of you!
I always think of my mom on Mother’s Day since she is the one that raised me mostly.