This little guy. He’s my 5 yr old son. Yes he’s a stinker.
He now wears glasses. They are a bit big for his face but now he can see. Last week I didn’t even know he couldn’t see.
I usually pride myself in being a great Mom. I take really great care of my kids. I make sure they have everything they need and I stay on top of their needs. Last week I took my son in for early vision screening for kindergarten. I thought “oh this is routine we’ll be in and out.” As he sat in the chair and began to test I watched him say that a panda bear looked like a dog. Cake looked like Pancakes, Things I could see he had no idea what they were and said “I don’t know”. My heart began to break. He wasn’t answering the questions correctly and these were signs he couldn’t see or atleast see them clearly. Then they tested the other eye. Same thing but just not as bad. Then she asked him to look with both eyes. He got all the answer correct but answered with a “OH that was a Panda bear”. Even he realized he got the answers wrong before.
How could this be? Could there be something that I missed over the last 5 yrs that gave me signs he couldn’t see. I thought I did everything right. I thought I paid attention but what was I missing. Were there signs?
As I began to look back on our time together over the last 5 yrs or more recently just the last I started to think about his behavior. I remembered things like him walking into chairs or cutting a corner to short and walking into the wall. He’d miss stairs as he’d come down and he’d fall. I chalked this up to him being just like me. Clumsy.
He was just like me I just didn’t know how much. I wear glasses. I’ve worn them since the 3rd grade. One and off. Now more recently more often but we’ll I’m getting old. He’s just 5. How can he need to wear glasses.
5 Signs I missed that Showed he needed to wear glasses.
1. He used to walk into things. Like the corner of the chair. The corner of the wall. The car door. He’d clip he side of the dresser as he was walking by. I thought he was being clumsy like me. I thought maybe he was just distracted and not paying attention where he was going. Didn’t think maybe he couldn’t see.
2. He’d lean in a lot. He’d lean his face in and rub his eyes. Blinking again and again. Not often but often enough. I thought maybe he just wanted a better look. I thought maybe he was a bit tired. Maybe his eyes were tired? Light sensitivity was a big issue for him. Especially during the winter. He’d complain.
3. He always would ask to sit in the living room near the television for dinner. While the rest of us could see the tv from the kitchen while we watched dinner he always wanted to sit in the living room and eat his meal. We thought it was because he just wanted to sit closer to the tv. Maybe our talking at the dinner table was distracting. Didn’t think maybe he couldn’t see?
4 When we watched television in the living room he’d sit about 3 feet from the television. Of course my response was, “Don’t sit so close to the tv you’ll ruin your eyes.” Yes I sounded just like my mom there didn’t I? I hadn’t realized his eyes were already not focusing correctly and he couldn’t see the tv clearly from the couch. My heart breaks.
5. When he was doing his letters he’d always draw them in the air. Asking does it go this way? Then with his finger he’d draw the letter in the air. I’d point at it on the paper and say just go around here follow the line. Then he’d say which way? I didn’t understand this. I thought he was just being silly. Didn’t realize he couldn’t see. He never said he couldn’t see.
I am grateful for early vision screening. I would of never known my son needed glasses full time had I not had to take him in for kindergarten screening. He now has glasses that he’ll be wearing full time and although she didn’t give him the maximum strength he needs right now it is a start. The glasses are pretty thick and his vision has not adjusted to them yet but with each day we wear them just a little bit more and he likes them but does mention things are still blurry. I’m not sure why this is but I’ll be calling the eye Dr on Monday to have her have a look at them again to make sure they were ordered properly.
I can’t help but feel like I’ve failed him in a way. I just hope that we caught his vision loss soon enough and that we’ll be able to correct it sooner and not later. I’m going to start him on some vitamins this week in hopes that maybe those will help in some way. He doesn’t eat enough vegetables and we’ll you know what they say , Carrots makes your eyes stronger and healthier. At this point I’m willing to do anything I can to help his little peepers strengthen and see better.
Does your child wear glasses? At what age did they start? Were there signs that they needed them early?